i think ppl are scared to speak up on where they want their love to go, yes out of rejection, but also in a weird way where no one wants to be the partner who “cares more”. no one wants to be the partner who always has to start the hard conversations, bc it’s easier to allow someone else to do the presentation and you be in your seat than to have you up there with thoughts & a clear plan with your nervousness and being Seen about what you are. It’s easier on the ego to feel like you can reject and walk away from someone instead of being the person who puts themselves out there. but the secret is this. the most special person will always be the one who starts those conversations. the fun of love and the romance of love will always follow that person who speaks first, who has the will to define their wants and needs. now you just get to decide if you want that to be you.
